Okay so I have found the reamer,
this one.
Yes, it is horrifically cheap, not even close to being HSS and comes with blunt marks already on the cutting edges (from sloppy handling at the factory I assume) but it is the right angle, and still cuts just well enough to work. A google search for my problem with the angles I need put me onto a UK forum with some poms wanting to put later model suspension gear on their Rover's or some such. Somehow the taper they needed is the same as the taper I need, one member putting out the link to reamer as above saying he's tried it and it works. And hey presto, what do you know, it works
First I tested it in a lump of aluminium at work; drill a 12mm hole, ease the reamer in with plenty of CRC as lube and it's slow going even in ally because it's cutting so much material all at once (straight flutes) Put bearing/micrometer blue on the tie rod end taper and gently put it into the hole, twist it around a few times, pull it out and there's blue contact area all the way down the hole

Then tapped the tie rod into the hole and stuffed if I could pull it out after, had to knock it out with a punch from the other side, good stuff
So it should be good enough to open up 2 holes in cast iron by about 1mm, go slow, plenty of lube, lots of checking. Will post results here.